Okay stupid title, this should probably be named ‘Why are so few people able to find a partner that they are happy with?’. The first thing is to understand what kind of partner most people are looking for. This varies by sex but here is a suggestion of what most people would like:
Now let’s have a look at what effect feminism has had on these attributes.
Women are pursuing better paid careers and putting off having children.
As women have better careers their earning go up and at the same time men’s earning are effectively reduced since some of them don’t have the higher paid jobs. What this does is push up the standard of success a women is willing to settle for whilst reducing the pool of men who are capable of living up to it.
This also means that women are getting older before they are looking to settle down, so fewer men get to marry their ideal fertile women (18-25 year old) that they desire.
Women are encouraged to man up and compete with men, whilst men are encouraged to get in touch with their feminine side.
Feminism encourages women to become more militant and assertive and on the other side attacks men for showing masculine traits. This has the effect of making men more feminine and women more masculine. This destroys the natural attraction that is felt between the sexes.
Also it pushes women to become more dominant whilst men become more submissive, further reducing the sexual attraction.
It makes men, women’s enemies.
Feminism does a great job of classing men as the oppressors of women, which historically is rubbish. With the gender empathy gap, men are by their very nature biologically looking to please women and protect them. The drive for women approval is so strong in men that any evidence suggesting otherwise can buried under the thousands of examples of them trying to protect them and look after them.
Women by their nature will side with women against men; however men’s nature is also to side with the women.
By fostering this stand point women look at men and especially the ones in position of high social standing as their enemy. So this has taken the motivation away from men to get into these positions, lowering the pool of attractive men more.
Other factor: Female Obesity
Feminism isn’t the only factor that is doing this, there are some other very strong factors. For example women are getting fatter and hence the motivation for men to work hard to be the kind of men they want is lower, since there are less women worth working for.
As Cheateau Hearties puts it well:
Our typical unmarried working class man surveys his cellulite-blasted kingdom (and it does not matter how fat he, himself, is, for fat men and thin men alike prefer the exquisite sight of slender female bodies), and he makes a quick hindbrain calculation. Does he bust his ass in a crappy service sector job doing women’s work for a shot at legally bound long-term commitment to a shuffling shoggoth dragging the bastard spawn of a hundred alpha males in tow, or does he say “fuck it” and turn to video games and porn featuring hot, thin chicks for his status and dopamine fix? [Cheateau Hearties]
Other factor: Unappealing marriage
Also marriage is becoming more and more unappealing to men as a concept (See my post on reasons not to get married).
As Girlwritewhat put it:
By turning marriage into a risk for men that a compulsive gambler wouldn’t touch with a ten foot pole if he had two brain cells to rub together, we’ve motivated men to be less productive than they otherwise would or could be [Owning your shit]
The main point is, if you look at the chart again. You will see that all the things that women find attractive in men (with the exception of being tall) are doing things / achievements. All the thing that men find attractive in women are kind of non-doing things / things they are born with and often lose over time.
- Women are getting less attractive (fatter, older and more masculine).
- Men are less motivated to put the work into become what women find attractive.
- Women standard are raising
- Feminism has fooled men into thinking women are attracted to feminine men
- Feminism changed the system to descriminating against men, making it hard for them to be what women find attractive.
So the pool of options is shirking for everyone. Depressing eh?